From childhood, we are taught to please: to be well-behaved, to be calm, not to disturb, to do what is expected of us.
So without even realizing it, we grow up with this reflex: asking for the opinion of others before making a decision.
We act cautiously, we hesitate, we wait for approval… As if our worth depended on an external response.
But the truth is: You don't need to be validated to move forward.
Why do we seek approval?
Because it's reassuring.
Because we're afraid of disappointing.
Because sometimes we doubt ourselves more than the opinions of others.
But this quest comes at a price: it slows down your life, your projects, your dreams.
By constantly waiting for external approval, you forget that the only important authorization... is your own.
Internal validation: a powerful change
A path opens up as soon as you ask yourself a new question:
Not: “ Will they approve ?”
But: “ Does that align me ?”
Because, deep down:
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you know what's good for you
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you know what you want to build
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You know what you no longer want to accept.
External validation is temporary.
Inner validation, on the other hand, builds an entire life.
How can we move forward without waiting for validation?
Here are three gentle practices to help you:
🟤Listen to your intuition before those around you
Your body always knows before your mind.
🟤Stop justifying everything
A decision does not need to be explained to be respected.
🟤Don't share everything at the beginning
Some projects need to be protected before they can be defended.
💌A message for you
If you are reading these words, it is surely because you have already waited too long.
Assuming we understand you.
Please reassure yourself.
Given that you are authorized.
So let me tell you this:
You have nothing to prove.
You just have to be true to yourself.
🤎 The word Hazellia
“ Your value doesn’t increase when you’re applauded; it was already there .”
Hazellia - Enhance your feline grace from the inside out 🍃
